Reasons Not to Get Married

Reasons Not to Get MarriedDespite the fact that 50% or more of marriages end in divorce, men continue to suspend disbelief and think that somehow “my marriage will be different.” I can sympathize, as I was one of these poor bastards — I was married for 14 years. What follows are the reasons why men should not get married. I want to be clear that I am not opposed to monogamy. I think relationships are great. I just think that expecting your relationship to last a lifetime is unrealistic for the vast majority of people. So, if the odds are strongly against you spending the rest of your life with one person, why enter into a contract that will punish you financially should that relationship end?

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Why Most Women Are Not Really Financially Hurt By Divorce More Than Men

Divorce AlimonyA commonly repeated myth in the divorce community is that women suffer far worse financially than men after divorce. Often using outdated data or studies based on mathematical errors, you can still find so-called “experts” claiming that after divorce, women suffer a 45% decrease in their standard of living while men experience a 15% increase. Setting aside the leap in logic one would have to make to show how a man, who most often loses at least half of the marital assets, along with having to pay alimony and child support, could ever have an increase in standard of living post-divorce, this falsely but widely-reported reported disparity in financial well-being after divorce has been debunked by mensnewsdaily.com and, more recently, a Pew survey showing that women actually fare better than men after a divorce.

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